Divorce is a legal process with the sole purpose of dissolving your assets and resolving custody issues. The job of your lawyer is to represent you in the process of divorce and to show the best of his ability. You shouldn’t forget that his job isn’t to listen to your anger and sadness.
He wasn’t trained to be a therapist. Our advice is to be realistic about the role of your lawyer when you choose him to represent you, and what you can expect from him.
First of all, you should know which is your main goal in this process, and try not to neglect your lifestyle. When it comes to negotiating your material things try to be rational, don’t let the emotions to speak for you. If you do this, the divorce will be longer and more expensive. The best question is to ask yourself what kind of divorce will do that for you.
If you aren’t completely entangled with children and finances, you could hire a mediator to help you negotiate the terms of your divorce. Mediation is the cheapest way to get divorced.
But if your process is too complicated you should hire a lawyer. Or if you can, you could have a collaborative divorce, especially if your goal is to preserve a co-parenting relationship.
So, discover what kind of divorce lawyer you need and realize that he will guide you in the direction of his own specific expertise.
When you choose your attorney start with an initial call and ask him about his experience and other resolved cases. It is good to know what type of clients he represents. Don’t forget to ask him the price, his rates and don’t waste your time if he doesn’t fit in you budget.
The divorce process can also include financial experts, parenting coordinators, coach facilitators, and forensic appraisers. Find out your attorney’s access to these resources and if any would be relevant to your case, as it will affect overall cost.
The sad truth is that many lawyers will tell you what you want to hear just to close the deal, and your obligation is to know that while this is your life, it’s a business for them. If an attorney will tell you confidential information about his cases and clients will do the same to you.
Be careful during the conversation if he’s distracted by phone calls or mails and if he gets distracted by these things, be sure that your divorce case will work the same way.
Make sure that your attorney is professional, knowledgeable, responsive and communicative. You should feel comfortable with him and trust him. Your attorney recognizes the importance of your children and puts them first in the legal process by not making unreasonable child support demands or custody arrangements.
